Monday, October 14, 2013

CERVICAL CANCER

Cervical cancer is the most common cancer in women, after breast cancer of course. However, unlike breast cancer, most ladies and women know very little about cervical cancer.

If you started having sex before reaching 20 years of age, or you've had sex with more than one person, you're at risk. Kindly go for screening.

If you've never had sex, kindly go and get the HPV vaccine, which protects against the virus that, by one crooked way or the other, causes cervical cancer. Note that the vaccine is for virgins only.

                                                                                     BY; Akanji Olakunle 'LordMarquis' 


Edited by; Niyi Oyekunle

Signs your spouse is cheating. HOW TO CATCH A CHEATER.


SIGNS YOUR SPOUSE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR.




  It is a known fact today that people go into relationships with a great sense of insecurity. This insecurity occurs from a residual of previous relationships that ended in disaster. Cheating and infidelity is however the major cause for breakups that occur in relationships. Study shows that 50-60% of even the most committed men engage in extramarital affairs, while 45-50% of women, also committed, cheat on their partners at a particular point in their relationships, so no sacred cow. Note; a strong relationship is based on trust, care, love and understanding. Therefore, if you noticed any of the things mentioned below and it is so unlike your partner, then he or she might just be cheating on you.
·         TRYING TO PROVE INNOCENCE

  When people lie, they tend to look for various excuses to backup their points. They often tell more than the required in this process. A co-marriage counselor once told me of a client who explained to her that the very first thing she noticed in her husband was his long answers to simple questions. Imagine asking, ‘why are you late?’ and you start listening to a long expository. He or she starts making up stories that is longer than the entire desperate housewives series, then something is wrong. Not only this, they also provide a ready alibi (they become a criminal over-ridden with guilt, but still they try to prove their innocence). Just think of it, why your partner is going through all this just to prove innocence over a relatively simple matter. HONEST PEOPLE GIVE SIMPLE AND STRAIGHTFORWARD ANSWERS.

  However, you need to be very careful when using this, he/she may just be trying to prove a point, and so be a good listener. Sometimes, your partner may just be a chatterbox, knowing your partner well enough is required in this regard. Only apply the rule if it is unlike your partner.




·         CHECK THE BODY LANGUAGE



  Reactions are very difficult to control. It takes an entirely strong personality to do this. Most of our physical reactions occur subconsciously. Therefore, it is important for you to take note of your partner’s body languages, this because in their bid to cook up a good and believable story, they make mistakes, the subconscious however could be your mirror to the truth and a closer watch at facial expressions gives out concealed intentions. This may be all you need to catch a cheater. It includes;

·         Uneasiness and fidgeting

·         Head or neck scratching

·         Avoiding of eye contact

·         Trying to hide face

·         Getting handy e.g. trying to touch or hold something.

Just look carefully, you will find the hidden truth through their nervousness
  However, in cold weather conditions, some of the aforementioned attributes may occur, due to exposure to atmospheric conditions. Therefore, ascertain that it is actually nervousness that is responsible for the naivety and fidgeting.




·         REPEAT YOUR QUESTIONS


  Sometimes we do have smart cheats. They give a convincing story without fidgeting. To nail this set of people, you need to repeat your questions after sometime. Once you notice any inconsistency, then he/she is a lying bastard. They do bring out new facts and new stories, they sometimes forget the golden rule of a liar, ‘do not forget’. In addition, once they feel you are catching up on them, they tend to give you the guilt stricken lines, ‘don’t you think I am telling the truth?’ or ‘don’t you trust me anymore?’…

  In this case however, no reversal, they either give you a consistent answer or they are cheats. Just make sure your questions are statement-like, do not accuse.




·         PLAY THE DETECTIVE (SHERLOCK HOLMES)


  In this case, you have only one suspect, your partner, not an invincible criminal. Therefore, check every details yourself i.e. the odometer, credit card details, look at the clothes for strange smells and stains.

  However, do not get caught in the act, because it may totally ruin tour relationship, so play it cool, nice and smart.


  Remember, do not accuse your partner, have a very strong proof before doing so. Give your suspect a lot of time, space and situations to make a lot of errors. RELATIONSHIP IS ALL ABOUT TRUST.

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Monday, October 7, 2013

How to get laid.

  Some men feel helpless and clueless when it comes to getting laid. This feeling of having no control over the other sex is unbearable to men. I have listened to many men as they express and tell the stories of their numerous failed attempts to get a lady in bed, all of these stories revolve round a common theme. Thus the synonymous nature of these stories, in those various sad expository led to me coming up with the four major ways you can get laid.

·         PLAY TO HER FANTASIES

  Never make your intentions obvious, it is better to take the long walk by faking interest in something else. Note, there is a traditional belief that the main purpose of going into a relationship for men is SEX. Yes, this fact can’t be disputed. I conducted a survey few weeks to valentine’s day in 2011 using five men and asking each man on separate occasions the same question, ‘what do you want in a relationship?, surprisingly four out of the five answered in conformity, the four wanted sex, verifying the aforementioned traditional hypothesis. Women are also aware of this fact, so they get turned off immediately when you start showing characteristics believed to be a way to get them in bed.
  Show interest in her look, her career, probably a close relation she shows great interest in. Make sure you identify her interest and you become interested as well, even if it is for the main time. Laugh anytime she tries to crack a joke even when it is dry, show enough interest to make her believe you are really interested in her and not for the sex. According to Joseph Weil, ‘a lie is an allurement; a fabrication that can be embellished into a fantasy. It can be clothed in the raiment of mystic conception. Truth is cold, not so comfortable to absorb. A lie is more palatable…’ therefore, fantasize with her into making her believe you are the right man and you are seriously interested in her. Women feel sex and want it more with someone they think they trust and believe is interested in them.

  However, never get carried away by your act, showing too much interest creates room for suspicion, sex is also part of a relationship, so find the balance and do not get engrossed in the act. Compliment her sexual attributes once in a while, and then she thinks you are an angel on earth.


·         OCCASSIONAL TOUCHES

  Frequent but timed touches on her would also do some tricks. An integrated and fulfilled feeling is generated with touch. The psychology of women for instance reveals that they love touches and think it is only those who care about them that do touch them. Pamper her with touches and smile each time you do that, maintaining eye contacts, it sends a message through you subconsciously into hers, she also feels cared for at the same time.

·         REVERSAL; do not overdo this, so she won’t feel uneasy when she is with you. Start gently by touching her arms, shoulders then her palms, before you know it, she is unconsciously reciprocating this, thus, creating a burning sensation between both of you.


·          CONFIDENCE AND SEXUAL ASSERTIVENESS

  This does not come with macho body type; it rather comes from special gestures. A close pal explained how he goes about this, he said, ‘I gently move them away from coming vehicles, glance at their faces and give a broad and clueless smile’. Special gestures like this, makes them feel safe and protected when with you. So be confident when you are with her.
  Also show sexual assertiveness by doing things like a man, SIT LIKE A MAN, NEVER DO ANYTHING LIKE A WOMAN. Do not cross your legs, this is not a job interview, sit with your legs apart and maintain your confident self. Jane(original name withheld) explained she gets stimulated sexually whenever she sees a man sitting with his leg apart, in her words she said ‘it leaves much to be imagined’.
                                  
  On the otherhand, do not be too confident, it only turns you into an egocentric he-goat and make her believe you are just a proud individual.


·         PORN(PORNOGRAPHY OR SEX VIDEOS/XXX)

  Do you feel like circumventing the natural ways you could get laid, try this backdoor, PORN VIDEOS OR XXX FILMS as it is popularly called. It arouses women most when the film includes scenes of activity between a man and a woman involved in a meaningful relationship. Get one with a good and romantic story and watch it with her. Once she could identify herself with the woman on the screen, she gets easily aroused.
 
  However, be very careful with the type of woman you do this with; research has shown that some women do get easily irritated. They prefer a man that can get them to bed in the most natural way.


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